10 Reasons Why More Than 20% Of Healthcare Professionals Get Divorced

Last updated Jan 31, 2022 | Published on Jan 31, 2022

Healthcare professionals often experience long hours and high levels of stress at their jobs, which is understandably difficult in any marriage or romantic relationship. When this stress bleeds into non-work life, it can cause strain within the couple and children (if there are any) involved.

It is well known that the divorce rate in America has been increasing, and it is no different for healthcare professionals. A study published recently found that more than 20% of all healthcare professionals get divorced each year. It is obvious to the point that there is more than one reason for a couple to get divorced, and the reasons are often intertwined.

Most Common Reasons For Divorce

There are many reasons why people choose to divorce, and each is unique. We’ll look at the most prevalent problem that usually develops.

1. Constant Arguing, Conflicts, Irretrievable Breakdown

According to a study by Medscape, more than 20% of healthcare professionals get divorced. The top reasons for divorce among this population are conflicts, arguments, “irretrievable breakdown” in the relationship, and lack of communication. These findings underscore the importance of work-life balance and communication in a relationship.

When healthcare professionals work long hours and put in extra time at work, it can be easy for a couple to get into arguments. Arguments are often the result of unresolved tension between partners that is then taken out when there isn’t enough time apart from each other. It negatively affects relationships because couples don’t have an opportunity to resolve the tension, which often builds over time.

‘Irretrievable breakdown’ in a relationship is another common issue among healthcare professionals. It happens when one or both partners feel like they have given up on the relationship, and there is no hope of reconciling. It can be due to issues such as unresolved conflict, infidelity, lack of communication, lack of personal interests, and so on.

2. Lack of Communication

Lack of communication is another top reason for divorce among healthcare professionals because it tends to be a common issue in all relationships at some level. When partners don’t communicate effectively or often enough within the relationship, they can grow tired and resentful over time, leading to an inevitable breakdown.

Relationships can be difficult in any context. Partners in the healthcare sector are often pulled in several different directions, with their personal lives always taking priority. It can lead to resentment for both parties if they don’t take time away from the job and communicate openly about what’s happening outside professional settings or issues before they escalate into bigger problems later on down the line.

3. Lack of Commitment

Lack of commitment is one reason why marriages fail. This can come from either spouse depending on their own set-back or fault in the relationship; however, it often leads people down a path where none want any part whatsoever within that other person’s life after they’ve left behind everything, including friends and family members who may not agree with them at times (and vice versa).

The problem here lies mainly within ourselves as much more than just being unable to want something different now.

4. Incompatibility and Growing Apart

You were certain that your spouse was the one with whom you wanted to spend the rest of your life, and anything that bothered or disagreed on an opinion would be minor. You overlooked those things because they didn’t bother either of you, so why worry about something being different than expected?

However, time always changes everything, which is exactly what happens when people grow up; their habits change, as do interests, and sometimes we don’t expect them at first glance (or agree). Even if marriage started blissfully without any issues whatsoever between two individuals who love each other deeply from day 1 – eventually, these differences start coming out due primarily to circumstances – growing apart.

You can’t always be on top of everything. Sometimes, you have to let go and accept that your partner has their way of doing things – even if it means missing out on some moments together because they’re not compatible with what’s important in life right now for YOU.

5. Substance Abuse and Addiction

An addiction can take control of a spouse’s life and put them in danger. It will cause the person to lie, cheat or steal from their significant other and neglect important relationships with family members and friends if they are not stopped immediately before it’s too late.

Codependency is a cycle that can be hard to break. You may find yourself in an abusive relationship because deep down, you want approval from your partner even though on the surface it seems like they dislike what you do or how much attention YOU receive at all times while expecting unconditional love without any kind returned upon your end either way.

People in recovery from addiction should know that addictions come in many forms. All of them can threaten the survival and well-being of couples staying together, including drug or alcohol abuse but also other things like gambling, pornography (which may include sex), uncontrollable spending on credit cards/unbounded loans, etc., which could lead to divorce if not dealt with properly by both parties involved.

6. Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs

Affairs are never easy to handle, but they can feel like the ultimate betrayal. The reality is that infidelity will change your marriage and affect how you communicate with each other in ways neither of us wants – it erodes trust forever.

It often leads couples down a path where communication breaks down completely and inevitably leads towards an emotionally tense atmosphere. One person feels unheard of or alone until finally breaking apart at any moment due to emotional strain from having their partner lie about something so huge.

7. Trouble with Finances/Money Disagreements

Financial issues in a marriage can cause tension, especially when it gets in the way of working together as one team. Someone may believe that their partner overspends while another is worried about debt levels – but what if these people have opposing opinions on where money should go? Over time, this strain will become too great for any relationship to handle without some compromise being reached between both parties involved.

It’s no surprise that when couples have less income, the stress of finances leads them to argue more. It can cause further strain on relationships as these individuals begin fighting over how things should work out financially once everything goes through legal channels following dissolution proceedings (which will include property division).

8. Emotional and Physical Abuse

Emotional and financial abuse in a relationship can be just as damaging to the person being abused, their children, or other relatives. These are not uncommon reasons for people who find themselves trapped in an unhealthy marriage situation to walk away from it all.

When we are in an abusive relationship, it’s hard to know if anything is wrong. It can start with physical harm and move its way up through emotional manipulation like cutting off affection as punishment for something you did wrong – but at some point, these actions will cause too much pain. The truth about abuse isn’t just one thing: whether it’s being belligerent, irrational, screaming all day long, or constantly comparing everyone else around them – it happens differently depending on who is hurting.

People often feel powerless when they are being abused. The best way to regain safety and control is by leaving an abusive relationship – even if that means letting go on all levels, emotionally and physically.

9. Falling Out Of Love/Lacking Intimacy

Lack of connection with your partner can easily destroy marriage since it leaves couples with the distinct impression that they are living together more like roommates than spouses. It could be partly because physical or emotional intimacy is lacking and not always about sex either.

If you are constantly giving the cold shoulder, then know that this may become grounds for divorce over time since needs go unmet between partners who have different appetites when it comes down to fulfilling their own desires on top of meeting those required by law (which isn’t usually much).

Ignoring your partner’s sexual needs has been identified as one of the leading causes of divorce. It is both partners’ jobs to make their relationship intimate and special. To sweeten your relationship, perform small acts of kindness and appreciation, and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible.

10. Lack of Equality and Identity

Communication and compromise are essential for a healthy marriage. If you marry someone with a strong personality, it can be easy for your spouse and you to feel perpetually subservient when making important decisions together because they prioritize everything else, including breathing room so that both partners feel invested in the partnership. It often leads one person to feel suffocated by their own sense of responsibility without having many opportunities themselves to explore what brings joy or happiness outside work hours, if anything at all.

For many, marriage is not just about being together but also sticking with your partner in good times and bad. You can nourish a relationship by providing open communication but make sure you give them space too.

The Takeaway

Healthcare professionals have demanding jobs that can take up a lot of their time. It leaves them with little time for anything else, including their marriage. Another reason healthcare professionals get divorced is that they are not able to handle the stress of their job. Constant life and death decisions and situations can take a toll on anyone.

While not everyone in the healthcare profession experiences a failing marriage, most of them are challenged, tested, and while some cultivate emotional intelligence, others buckle under the stress. It’s worth noting that it rarely has anything to do with love or affection. When couples are not happy with themselves or their lives, they put less effort into the marriage, which causes it to fall apart in the long run.

Reference

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4012696/

2 Comments

  1. Edward Wrenn, M.D.

    Isn’t 20 % far below the average for all couples? Maybe you should also be pointing out 10 reasons why this may be the case.

    • L4Z

      The most recent data that I’ve seen shows about 15% average for all couples, from the 2019 American Community Survey.

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